Communications 1010

This semester I can honestly say that this class has greatly affected me the most out of all the classes I have ever taken. During this time, I went through an enormous amount of change inside and out. I had changed jobs within my department. Now being in a new environment with new people, new responsibilities, and a new set of superiors, I was settling in and learning to adjust.

While semester went underway, one part I can clearly remember we were learning about communication, perception and culture. Me being with an all new group of people to work with, it helped me understand the way people can exist and communicate and how I can be self aware of how I communicate with them. I can tell you the great importance of doing this because I saw it before my own eyes. The way I do things and my own perspective isn't the same as everyone else's. I think that is really important. In my venture in my new career, it helped me in communicating to those who I am now teamed with. It gave me perspective on how I can learn something new about people, by listening to their views and in return learn a great deal of knowledge. Also one thing I must add is properly getting a message across. I learned that I had overly used filler words. In getting an important message across I imagined using words of importance in my message made it look important. But now I see it actually hinders the message and now at every time I talk or even express myself through a message I know better. Being in a new environment I think it's important to know these things because it can help me navigate my way to becoming a part of the team's inner-working family. Plus it also allows me to gain knowledge on how to approach my superiors if their is a situation that arises or I need to just speak to them one on one quickly.

I also learned how to overcome listening anxiety. I didn't realize that it was a thing that actually existed until I read it in our chapter book. I have dealt with this my entire life and it has been such a nuisance. In learning about how it can affect people like making them less motivated to succeed, I began to see how it had harbored me in my youth due to it. Now that I was in a new job as an adult, venturing to a new career path, I knew I had to overcome it. In my new job one of the most important task was to radio some very important information between multiple individuals. Allowing myself to face my fear of the anxiety, allowed me to focus more on the message and how to properly relay that message in a new system I created for myself. Now I can confidently say that it has helped me advance. I am not only more self aware but I am no longer fearful. Overall this class has helped me learn more about myself and the inner workings of those around me. I feel that I have grown in my communication skills and it has helped me in how I approach people, which is different now than from before. I feel like I have grown a great deal and I look forward to the new things in life that will head my way due to my new found confidence.

Below is the speech I gave for my final project on the topic of fear and the fear of failure. Included is my final outline, along with the link to my power point presentation entitled "Why Fear?" Enjoy!

"Why Fear?" Link:

https://prezi.com/view/fnKfo757geFxSuSL5QW1/

Natalie Abinader Fear Speech Final Outline

Comm 1010

Teisha Vest

Specific Goal: My audience will learn about fear, the fear of failing, and how it affects our mentality.

Application: The audience will be able to not only gain an understanding of the topic but will be able to identity how such created fear is affecting them and how they can change their mentality from negativity to positivity.

Ethos: Primary Ethos: Everyone has fear and it typically stems from something in their own personal past.

Secondary Ethos: I will cite at least a total of five references or quotes out loud in my speech.

Pathos: My story of how I grew up being very fearful of almost everything will bring more understanding of how being fearful can affect someone so deeply and will a want for change from within from my topic.

Logos: I will use research data on fear and phobias as well as research from medical and psychological professionals.

Audience Assessment: My audience more than likely understands what it is to fear something and has an understanding of fear or failure.

Adaptation to Audience: I will define fear and why we fear failure, and lay out the warning signs of experiencing fear/fear of failure and how to overcome.

Pattern of Organization: Chronological in the Introduction, Cause-and-Effect in the Body.

Introduction

I. Hook: Fear affects many and for some in their everyday lives. The fear of failing according to fearof.net’s Phobia List-The Ultimate List of Phobias and Fears, can also be known as "the single greatest barrier to success." In understanding what creates fear or where it stems from, gaining this understanding can lead to stepping forward to better understanding of self, overcoming personal fears and helping those in need to overcoming the fear of failure.

A. I will tell a story of how Fear has affected my life in adolescence. B. Because I began to see how it affected my life, I decided to make a change.

II. Thesis: In acknowledging what creates your fear or where it stems from can lead to stepping forward to better understanding of yourself, overcoming your personal fears, and helping those in need to overcoming the fear of failure.

III. Preview:

First, I’ll explain what fear is and how fear of failure cycle is created.

Second, I’ll explain how researched data on stopping people from their success.

Third, I’ll explain how we can overcome all of it.

Transition: Now that you have had a preview of fear and fear of failure, Let me show you how you too can distinguish it.

Body

Definition of fear according to Webster’s Dictionary.

1. Explain fear and worrying statistics (Static Brain, 2016).

2. According to fearof.net the fear of failure and even the fear of public speaking are on the top 15 of their list.

Describing how people reach their “Upper Limit” of how much positive feeling they can handle and create a series of “unpleasant” thoughts to deflate themselves according to Gay Hendricks (Hendricks, 2009).

Transition: Explaining through that description, let’s move on.

The Why & What To Do Fear of Failure.

1. Top Ten Ways people get in their own way (Maxwell, 2000).

Transition: Now we can move on to strategy in conquering fear/fear of failure.

The first step to wholeness: Discovering your story (Hendricks, 2009).

A. Create a list of your own Upper Limit behaviors (The Big Leap, 2009).

B. Leave your “Zone of Excellence.”

C. Once you realize you are in your “Zone of Genius,” making the commitment to living in it (The Big Leap, 2009).

1. Gay Hendricks “4 Hidden Barriers” review, don’t let that also get in your way.

Conclusion

V. Restate the statistics on fear and how we create our own fear.

1. Quotes from Failing Forward, 2009.

VI. If you can recognize where your fear stems from you can begin the steps to overcoming your fears. In overcoming your fears, you no longer fear failure. In no longer fearing failure you can begin to grow and move forward to your future successes.

Final Quote: Napoleon said, “Victory belongs to the most persevering” (Maxwell, 2009).

References

Hendricks, Gay. 2009. The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life

To The Next Level. New York, New York: Harper One.

Maxwell, John C. 2000. Failing Forward:Turning Mistakes into Stepping Stones for Success. Nashville, Tennessee: Thomas Nelson.

Merriam-Webster. (n.d) Fear. Retrieved November 18, 2017, from https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/fear

Olesen, Jacob. (2016, July 10). Phobia List - The Ultimate List of Phobias and Fears. Retrieved November 18, 2017, from http://www.fearof.net/

Static Brain. (2016, September 4). Fear / Phobia Statistics. Retrieved November 18, 2017, from https://www.statisticbrain.com/fear-phobia-statistics/